Jonathan Rhys Meyers - the sexiest man in 2009

Was doing some Christmas related shopping today, and noticed this Hugo Boss ad with Jonathan Rhys Meyers. Not because of this ad, but because of The Tudors, for me, the sexiest man (among celebrities, movie stars etc.) in 2009 was Jonathan Rhys Meyers.

Christmas time: Modern interpretation of a classic fairy tale, Selfridges, London

Overall, this year's Christmas windows displays at Selfridges, my favourite department store in London, were disappointing, except for this modern interpretation of a classic fairy tale.

British rugby legend Gareth Thomas comes out: "I'm gay"

Sport still remains a place where you could hardly find an openly gay sportsman. This is especially true in a more macho-like sports, like rugby (“'It is the toughest, most macho of male sports, and with that comes an image” - Gareth Thomas) or football etc.

Time is slowly but changing, and today’s news that British rugby legend Gareth Thomas comes out publicly about being gay is truly a remarkable one. In a candid interview with Daily Mail, Gareth explains why he made such a decision now, and his struggle in coming to terms with his sexuality. Apparently, he did come out to his wife and friends (team-mates) in 2006, and according to some reports, it was an open secret in the Wales for quite some time, but only today Gareth Thomas decided to come out in public.

I am sure, many of you would recognise yourself in emotions and feelings Gareth reveals, like I did. I highly recommend reading this headlining story in full. Below are few selected quotes.
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Today, however, he has taken the remarkable decision to go public. It's his choice. No one has forced his hand.

He just feels attitudes have changed and the time is right for sport to start accepting openly gay people in the same way other professions have in recent years.
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That secret, which he'd kept hidden his entire career, was - he admits now - 'like a tight knot in my stomach, always threatening to seep out'.

He says: 'I was like a ticking bomb. I thought I could suppress it, keep it locked away in some dark corner of myself, but I couldn't.

'It was who I was, and I just couldn't ignore it any more.
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He says he feels like a teenager again, re-living his youth, discovering who he really is.

He hopes, now that he has gone public, he can still go out with male friends without people assuming he's with a lover.

'Just because you are gay, doesn't mean you fancy every man who walks the planet,' he says.

'I don't want to be known as a gay rugby player. I am a rugby player first and foremost. I am a man.

'I just happen to be gay. It's irrelevant. What I choose to do when I close the door at home has nothing to do with what I have achieved in rugby.

'It's pretty tough for me being the only international rugby player prepared to break the taboo.

'Statistically I can't be the only one, but I'm not aware of any other gay player still in the game.

'I'd love for it, in ten years' time, not to even be an issue in sport, and for people to say: "So what?" '
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'It's been really tough for me, hiding who I really am, and I don't want it to be like that for the next young person who wants to play rugby, or some frightened young kid.

'I don't know if my life is going to be easier because I'm out, but if it helps someone else, if it makes one young lad pick up the phone to ChildLine, then it will have been worth it.

'My parents, my family and my friends all love me and accept me for who I am, and even if the public are upset by this, I know the love of those people who mean the most to me will never change.

'I'm not going on a crusade, but I'm proud of who I am. I feel I have achieved everything I could ever possibly have hoped to achieve out of rugby, and I did it being gay.

'I want to send a positive message to other gay people that they can do it, too.'

*picture - via Attitude

Turkey: prosecutor considers lesbian love to be obscene

*Bianet

The Istanbul Chief Public Prosecutor's Office initiated an investigation on the book "The 'L' State of Love" by Burcu Ersoy which was part of the "From Women to Women Story Contest" carried out by the Kaos Gay and Lesbian Cultural Research and Solidarity Association (Kaos GL).

The prosecutor's office reasoned the investigation by claiming that lesbianism is "an unnatural sexual relation" and "obscene".

Zeliş Deniz, member of LambdaIstanbul, a Turkish LGBT organization advocating for LGBT people's human rights, objected to the given reason for the investigation: "In is unacceptable to consider and perceive lesbianism as "abnormal" in world that does not regard homosexuality as a disease".

"Erotic and pornographic publications for heterosexuals can be printed, but at the same time an investigation is initiated on a book telling love stories between women. This is nothing else but homophobia", Deniz added.

Publisher reacts to investigation
İrfan Sancı, owner of Sel Publishing where the book was published, announced on kaosgl.org, "The attempt of prosecuting our book for this reason is like ridiculing the the people's current state of mind".

The "From Women to Women Story Contest" was initiated by Kaos GL in the scope of the Meeting Against Homophobia organized for the 4th year. "The 'L' State of Love" was contributed by Burcu Ersoy and has been published at Sel Publishing in October this year.

In the investigation launched 10 weeks after the publication of the book, the Istanbul Chief Public Prosecutor's Office referred to a statement of publisher Sancı.

Sancı pointed out that the book was part of the story contest. He indicated, "There are no expressions in the book that remind of obscenity as defined by the law. On the contrary, it consists of naive stories of love between women with a literary concern". Sancı added that he does not agree with the prosecutor's findings.

The never-ending story of "public morality"
LamdaIstanbul member Deniz said that once more the "public morality" is put forward in the context of LGBT people in Turkey: "Discrimination against people who are not heterosexual arises again. We will experience this sort of investigations, the closure of associations and the confiscation of magazines if article 10 of the constitution on equality is not amended by including sexual orientation and gender identity".

Publisher Sancı is tried at the Istanbul 2nd Criminal Court of First Instance under the allegation of "spreading obscenity" regarding his publishing of the books "The Fairy's Pendulum" by Ben Mila, "The Amorous Exploits of a Young Rakehell" by Guillaume Apollinaire and "Letters of a Well-Mannered and Knowledgeable Bourgeois Women" by French writer P.V.

The Prime Ministry Board for the Protection of Children from Harmful Publications banned the novel "Third Class Women" by Anıl Alacaoğlu published by Minima Publishing. Saying that the book "harms children under the age of 18" the board decided for the sale and banned any advertisements regarding the book.

Retro and personal: Georgi Minasyan

It was back in the USSR. I was a teenager and on a river cruise summer vacation with my family (Volga-Don, Russia). There was this Armenian guy there. He was approximately my age, may be a year or so older. He was with a big group of either dancers or musicians, all Armenian. This guy started hitting on me. One of his lines was that I look like Georgi Minasyan :)

Georgi Minasyan was an Armenian pop star, very popular in Armenia; also in Russia. His sexuality was an open secret back then. Basically, it was hardly a secret. Everyone knew that he was gay, but no one cared about it. Georgi was popular and loved by Armenian public. He was our celebrity with lots of gossips surrounding his private life.

I do not really think that I looked like Georgi Minasyan back then. May be, just may be I somehow reminded that guy of Georgi Minasyan, but I think - above anything else - it was more of a coded way for him to tell me: ‘My gaydar recognised you’ ;)

Celebrating PINK's bday: first ever Armenian music video to feature gay love

PINK - 2yrs old :)



This video was made by Sharm holding as part of their first (2005) and pretty successful Yerevan-Moscow transit Armenian-Russian music project. It features diversity of love, including gay love. It's probably the first ever Armenian music video to feature a gay love... starring, among others, Mamikon, head of PINK Armenia, wearing traditional national Armenian costume (տարազով ադաթավոր... ;) Pay a particular attention to the segment 2.40 - 3.08 in the video. There is also a lesbian love scene at the beginning.

Always loved Irina Ponarovskaya. She was so different, stylish, elegant, and one of my favourites of 80s/90s Russian pop scene.

Celebrating PINK's bday: Mamikon and Miss Armenia 2006

PINK - 2yrs old :)



OK, this video may have nothing to do with PINK or things but you have to watch this. Here is our very versatile Mamikon, head of PINK Armenia, playing a straight 'Kazanova' with Miss Armenia 2006. Truly, diversity without limits ;)

Austria became the 18th country in Europe to legalise gay civil unions

Symbolically coincided with the International Human Rights Day - which calls to "embrace diversity and end discrimination" - Austrian parliament made an important decision today by providing a legal recognition for same-sex partners. Although not a full marriage rights (no adoption or artificial insemination rights), this is certainly a step in a right direction.

VIENNA (AP) -- Austria's parliament passed legislation Thursday allowing same-sex couples to enter into civil unions, a move hailed by proponents as a historic win for gay rights in the country. The bill, slated to become law Jan. 1, will give same-sex couples many of the rights enjoyed by their heterosexual counterparts, including access to a pension if one partner dies and alimony in the event of a split.

What all EU countries (and others) should and would eventually do is to follow the example of Spain, Netherlands, Belgium, Canada, Norway, Sweden, and South Africa  in providing full and equal marriage rights.

Europe's main gay rights group ILGA-Europe welcomes this decision by the Austrian parliament.

On 10 December 2009, the International Human Rights day, the Austrian parliament passed a law on registered partnerships for same-sex partners. ILGA-Europe welcomes this development which makes Austria the 18th country in Europe which provides legal recognition for same-sex partners. The law will come into effect on 1 January 2010.

New EU anti-discrimination poster featuring Armenian activist Lilit Poghosyan

Lilit Poghosyan is a Programmes & Policy Officer at Europe’s main gay rights group - ILGA-Europe, and my dear friend. Earlier this year I posted about Lilit being chosen as the face for the European Commission campaign ‘For Diversity. Against Discrimination’. Here is the new poster featuring Lilit. (above, left)

The campaign’s work focuses on the five grounds of discrimination which are covered by two EU Directives:

The Employment Equality Directive protects everyone in the EU from discrimination based on age, disability, sexual orientation and religion or belief in the workplace.

The Racial Equality Directive prohibits discrimination on the grounds of racial or ethnic origin in the workplace as well as in other areas of life such as education, social security, healthcare and access to goods and services.

Measures to combat discrimination based on a person’s gender are covered by other EU initiatives.

For more about Lilit Poghosyan - read my earlier post here.

Introducing openly gay US Consular Chief in Tbilisi, Georgia

Gay Caucasus, Russian language LGBT blog, introduces newly appointed openly gay US Consular Chief in Tbilisi, Georgia - Patrick Wingate. Below is a brief biography of Patrick Wingate (in English), via US Department of State website.

Gay and Lesbian Pride Month:
Patrick Wingate

OFFICE OF CIVIL RIGHTS

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Office of Civil Rights
June 2009
Washington, DC

Patrick R. Wingate joined the Department of State as a consular-coned Foreign Service Officer in January 2004. He and his family served first in San Salvador, El Salvador and then in Zagreb, Croatia. Their next tour is Tbilisi, Georgia.

Before joining the Foreign Service Patrick worked for State and USAID from 1993 through 2003 in Russia and Bosnia and Herzegovina, and he served as Washington-based program manager for USAID/OTI projects in Sierra Leone, Burundi, and the Democratic Republic of Congo.

Patrick and his Canadian partner, Rami Shakra, were married in Canada in September 2003, and their two children Canaan and Maya were born in 2004 in Guatemala. The Shakra-Wingate Family proudly serves the United States of America abroad, and hopes to be a cultural example of the rich diversity and equality their country has to offer for all families, both foreign and domestic.

Gay women from Armenia and Georgia discuss cooperation

Five writers for the Armenian lesbian blog “Queering Yerevan” visited Tbilisi. They expressed the desire to cooperate with Inclusive’s women’s initiative group. The artists met several representatives of Inclusive’s Women’s Club and elaborated cooperation plans within the framework of both art initiatives and the first ever working meeting of lesbian and bisexual women in the South Caucasus.

*source: Me magazine 2009 No. 3 (12)

Georgia: LGBT posters

The outcome of LGBT postcards competition organised by the Inclusive Foundation LGBT NGO and Gay.ge initiative group are now available online. Below are selected samples which won 1st prizes. For more - see here.

Georgia: Happy belated bday, Me!!

The first and only LGBT magazine in the South Caucasus celebrated its birthday in September. Happy belated bday, Me!! Keep up the great work you are doing.
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Me magazine celebrated its 3rd birthday with the publication of its 12th quarterly issue. This occasion was marked by the Georgian LGBT NGO -Inclusive Foundation - in Kvariati, Georgia on 12 September. The issue features music singles by Me and My Monkey band with a specially composed track “With Me” that was performed live at the birthday party along with other original songs by the band. The Forest – duo of electronic music artists, Dj-ed at the event to entertain around 150 guests coming from Georgia as well as guests from ten other countries.

Me magazine’s anniversary issue is available at the following link.

And the tracks from the bonus CD (free and legal for download) - here.

Rare report in Azeri media about local lesbian couple (in Russian)

Общество

Азербайджанская однополая семья растит семимесячную дочь04 ноября 2009 15:12

В Азербайджане появилась одна из первых однополых семей, которая вот уже два года и три месяца существует и растит семимесячную дочь.

Ребенок с радостью воспринимает обеих мам и, как все дети, убегает при виде посторонних. Случай сам по себе уникален для Азербайджана, так как до сих пор никто из геев либо лесбиянок, сожительствуя, не ухаживал за «общим» чадом.

Корреспондент 1news.az побывал в гостях у этой уникальной семьи и увидел весь уклад жизни своими глазами.

Айнур (22 года) и Юля (29 лет) (имена условные) поведали собственную историю знакомства, чему посредничал общий друг.

Когда беременную Юлю бросил муж, женщина осталась без поддержки и близких рядом с отчимом. «Это был какой- то момент, подтолкнувший меня на этот шаг», - рассказывала Юля.

Айнур к тому времени уже имела четырехлетний опыт общения с девушкой, с которой рассталась по собственной инициативе. В отличие от Юли, у нее больше родственников, но они все отказались от дочери.

Вскоре после того, как женщины определились со своими отношениями, накололи имена друг друга на своих руках, Айнур переселилась жить к своей подруге. Она стала работать вместо мужчины на стройке и в ресторанах официанткой, ведь надо было прокормить беременную Юлю. С приближением родов они обе стали искать больницу, где можно было бы безопаснее и дешевле организовать роды.

«На руках у меня было только 300 манатов. С этими деньгами мы не знали куда идти, ведь кроме родов Юле еще надо было питаться. Общими усилиями мы вышли на одну правозащитницу. Она, в свою очередь, через собственные каналы договорилась об организации бесплатных родов в Центре акушерства и гинекологии»,- добавила Айнур.

После родов, им до сих пор помогают чем могут их друзья. Айнур не имеет постоянной работы. Ее никто не воспринимает всерьез, да еще и проблема с документами. Даже попытка называться мужским имением порой не дает своего результата. Диплом бухгалтера остался лежать в ящичке комода, да и по специальности Айнур работала недолго.

Сейчас она вместе с Юлей намерена уехать в Россию, где на однополые пары обращают меньше внимания.

Со слов хозяек, раньше в Сабаильском районе соседи избегали их, но сейчас стали чаще захаживать в гости, чему стал свидетелем и сам сотрудник 1news.az. Они чаще приходят, чтобы убежать от собственных наболевших проблем, забывая о нравах, где воспитывается грудной ребенок.

Между тем, чтобы прокомментировать данную ситуацию и судьбу ребенка, воспитываемого двумя женщинами, редакция обратилась к психологу Даянату Рзаеву.

По его словам, гомосексуальность родителей в 50 % может повлиять на формирование ребенка, в зависимости от того, в какое русло в процессе воспитания она будет направлена. В определенной форме ребенок всегда принимает модель поведения своих родителей и в этом случае в качестве подражания выступают две мамы нетрадиционной ориентации. Однако немаловажен и генетический фактор. Воспитание тоже имеет свое особое место.

«Только чтобы огородить ребенка от возможного влияния на нее роли родителей нельзя отбирать у них девочку. Вполне возможно, что именно эти родители очень хорошие мамы, ведь женский гомосексуализм бывает семейным», - заключил психолог.

В свою очередь, директор Клиники прав ребенка Назир Гулиев считает, что так как в местном законодательстве нет понятия однополая семья, вторая женщина (в этом случае Айнур) не является биологическим родителем – она постороннее лицо ребенку. Однако даже у постороннего лица есть право на воспитание ребенка при согласии на то биологических родителей. Под понятием постороннего лица можно назвать нянек, преподавателей и воспитателей.

Если поведение одного из них вредит воспитательному процессу, родитель имеет право обратиться в соответствующие органы.

Также по поводу однополой семьи высказалась глава Общества прав женщин Новелла Джафароглы. Она считает, что в Азербайджане ментальность не позволяет жить однополой семьей и это считается аморальным.

«В случае, если однополые семьи все-таки будут преследоваться, правозащитники смогут вступиться за них. Однако среди восточных стран очень мало найдется государств, которые смогут привыкнуть к однополым семьям», - отметила правозащитница.

З. Ибрагимхалилова

*1news.az

Video: 'Male striptease in the Russian army barracks' ;)

Via Towleroad, I came across this YouTube video, which was reportedly made in the Russian army barracks. According to the video description, "What real men do when they are in the army? Dance for each other." Lovely ;)

Yerevan diaries: No ‘pure’ girls

When in Yerevan, I had a meeting with a group of my high school male friends whom I have not seen for ages. Not that I particularly wanted this meeting, as I always knew that there is an ocean between us in terms of our mentality and everything. But hey, for old times’ sake, I thought, well, will go for it. We talked about this and that, and then the inevitable topic of girls.

My school mates sounded genuinely upset, as if the world turned upside down for them. They said it’s now impossible to find ‘pure’ girls in Yerevan to date and marry. And no, it’s not just virginity they were referring to. The whole ‘world order’ has changed for them. They complained of not being able to find girls who would prefer sitting at home with their mother instead of working. When I asked what is wrong with women working especially as they seemed to be OK with girls getting university education (they actually preferred that! - of course, they would - it’s a matter of ‘honour’ or ‘reputation’ for them to have a university educated wife). Well, the answer was - “I can’t and do not want to change myself. I grew up following my father’s example. My mother had a university degree education, but she did not work, rather preferring to be a housewife, and I, like my father, want to be sure that whenever I turn up home, my wife is waiting for me”... and similar things.

What was a catastrophe for them (no ‘pure’ girls in Yerevan) was actually a very positive sign for me. Yes, things are changing in Yerevan, and I loved those small signs of progress.

Tweet of the Day: Yerevan airport taxi driver asks about gay marriages in Europe

Usually airport taxi drivers ask why someone would stay in #Armenia. Today's wanted to know if gay marriage existed in #Europe. #LGBT
*@onewmphoto

My optimistic reaction to this:

You know what they say. Taxi drivers are good sources of proxy indicators to get a 'vox populi' perspective of what's going on in any particular country. The mere asking such a question by a Yerevan airport taxi driver may be a proxy indicator that things are changing in our country, after all, even if to a very little extent, even if it's "some seeds", for whatever reason he asked...

Turkey: latest LGBT news/links

1. Gay refugees flee persecution but remain at risk (WorldFocus)

Lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) refugees are among the most vulnerable refugee groups in the world today, according to Neil Grungras, the executive director of Organization for Refuge, Asylum & Migration (ORAM).[...]

ORAM is currently providing legal representation to LGBT refugees in Turkey. The vast majority of them are Iranians who have fled execution or other severe punishment in Iran and Turkey happens to be their “country of first asylum.”

Worldfocus producer Gizem Yarbil interviews Neil Grungras about ORAM’s refugee clients in Turkey. A refugee and immigration advocate with more than 20 years of experience, he has worked extensively on behalf of vulnerable refugees and asylum seekers. [...]

Our clients in Turkey are predominantly sexual minorities - lesbians, gays, bisexual and transgender individuals from Iran. The abuses they face almost always emanate from the Iranian authorities. These include harassment, arrest, interrogation, torture, beatings, and execution.

It is estimated that 4000 LGBTs have been executed in Iran since 1978. While no one can be certain of the exact figure, LGBTs live in constant fear of discovery or outing there.[...]

While the Turkish government does not persecute LGBTs, conditions in Turkey for these individuals are extremely harsh. Like other refugees there, our clients are typically not permitted to work, and have no access to normal health care, social assistance or housing. LGBTs in Turkey are also targeted with violence by local populations, and the authorities are often unable to extend them protection. Several of our clients in Turkey have been beaten and many have been threatened with violence. In some towns, the situation is so severe that some refugees fear venturing outside in daylight. During the past year, many of our clients have reported threats and actual violence against them. A few clients were beaten so seriously that they required hospitalization.

We recently detailed these and other abuses in our co-publication with Helsinki Citizens Assembly – Turkey titled Unsafe Haven: The Security Challenges Facing Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Asylum Seekers in Turkey.[...]

2. Soul-Searching in Turkey After a Gay Man Is Killed (NY Times)
More about this case - see one of my earlier posts

3. Acvists target Turkish law (Pink Paper)

The Pink Life LGBTT Solidarity Association in Ankara, Turkey, and the International Gay and Lesbian Human Rights Commission have teamed up to demand that Turkey's "Law of Misdemeanors" be rewritten to protect transgender people's rights to free expression, association and movement.

"In recent months," the groups said, "the harassment of transgender and transsexual persons in Turkey has intensified as police abuse the country's Law of Misdemeanors to legitimise daily fines, extortion, eviction, detention and police brutality. The law gives security forces tremendous leeway to punish any noise, disobedience and disturbance, with virtually no oversight in how the law is applied or recourse to those who are penalised."[...]

HIV and human rights: HIV/AIDS educational campaign in Gyumri and Vanadzor 4-6 December 2009 supported by OSI Armenia

*press release in Armenian

Բաց Հասարակության ինստիտուտի Հայաստանի մասնաճյուղի նախաձեռնությամբ 2009թ-ի դեկտեմբերի 4-ից մինչև 6-ը Հայաստանի մի շարք մարզերում իրականացվում է ՄԻԱՎ/ՁԻԱՀ-ի դեմ պայքարի համաշխարհային օրվան նվիրված քարոզարշավ:

Քարոզարշավի շրջանակներում նախատեսվում է Գյումրի, Վանաձոր քաղաքներում կազմակերպել կլոր-սեղան քննարկումներ և հեռուստաեթերներ, որոնց ժամանակ հանրությանը կներկայացվեն ներարկային թմրամիջոցներ օգտագործողների, նույնասեռականների, սեռական ծառայություններ մատուցող անձանց, ինչպես նաև կանանց ու երիտասարդների խնդիրները ՄԻԱՎ/ՁԻԱՀ համատեքստում: Կքննարկվի նրանց իրավունքների և հիմնարար ազատությունների լիարժեք իրականացման անհրաժեշտությունը` որպես ՄԻԱՎ/ՁԻԱՀ համաճարակի դեմ գլոբալ պայքարի կարևորագույն բաղադրիչ, քանի որ հանրային առողջության պաշտպանությունը հնարավոր է միայն մարդու բոլոր իրավունքները պաշտպանելու միջոցով:

Քարոզարշավին մասնակցում են խոցելի խմբերի շահերի պաշտպանություն իրականացնող մի շարք կազմակերպություններ, այդ թվում` Հելսինկյան Քաղաքացիական Ասամբլեայի Վանաձորի գրասենյակ, Հակաթմրամոլային քաղաքացիական դաշինք, Իրական Աշխարհ, Իրական Մարդիկ, ինչպես նաև Հանրային տեղեկատվություն և գիտելիքի կարիք հասարակական կազմակերպությունները:

Առաջին կլոր-սեղան քննարկումը կիրականացվի դեկտեմբերի 4-ին ժամը 16.00-ին Գյումրի լրագրողների Ասպարեզ ակումբում: Նույն օրը` ժամը 20.00-ին Գյումրիի Ցայգ հեռուստաընկերության ուղիղ եթերով կկայանա հեռուստաքննարկում, որին կմասնակցեն վերը նշված կազմակերպությունների ներկայացուցիչները:

Երկրորդ կլոր-սեղան քննարկումը կիրականացվի Վանաձորում` դեկտեմբերի 5-ին ժամը 15.00-ին, իսկ հեռուստաքննարկումը կկայանա ժամը 19.00-ին Վանաձորի Լոռի հեռուստաընկերության ուղիղ եթերով:

Լրացուցիչ տեղեկավության ստացման համար կարող եք դիմել Հելսինկյան Քաղաքացիական Ասամբլեայի Վանաձորի գրասենյակ` Իրավական աջակցություն Լոռու, Շիրակի, Տավուշի մարզերի և Երևանի թմրամիջոց գործածողներին ծրագրի համակարգող Ելենա Սարգսյանին (հեռախոս 374322 4 22 68, hcav@hcav.am)

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