tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3819444802156961103.post6877804850724323741..comments2023-07-13T14:06:45.974+01:00Comments on Unzipped: Gay Armenia: Open letter to homophobes: Gay boy's mama fights backartmikahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11207317653711435445noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3819444802156961103.post-84231441683971474962011-06-14T03:08:03.079+01:002011-06-14T03:08:03.079+01:00Thank you for posting this. I am a bisexual girl g...Thank you for posting this. I am a bisexual girl going into 9th grade. Today I was teased and taunted by a group of girls for being bisexual. I wasn't comfortable enough to tell the counculours because I feel uncomfortable telling adults about my sexuality. I haven't even told my parents about it yet. My friends and a lot of my school knows but my parents and brother do not.<br /><br />What I don't understand is why people feel the need to bully others for being different. Parents, schools, and most adults they meet encourage their children to be different but when they are they are bullied by other kids. I think it is kind of stupid/silly for people to bully others just because they don't wear the right clothes, or the right shoes. They don't have the most popular shoe or the cool house or if they are poor. People don't know what is going on in someone elses life and something that someone does could change someones life. It could make them suicidal, it can make them cut, it can make them abuse drugs. It can do so many things to screw up someone. So<br />What I'm saying is why hurt someone so badly just to kill them in the end. You will then have that on your head and it can make you feel guilt, it will make you remorse. So let's not bully so you don't have to remorse or feel guilt.Jonasfabulousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3819444802156961103.post-15072766524223278022010-06-14T20:50:03.898+01:002010-06-14T20:50:03.898+01:00I recently saw this letter and loved it. A month o...I recently saw this letter and loved it. A month or so ago, I wrote a letter to a local homophobe in our neighborhood about why Proposition 8 (California anti-gay marriage initiative) hurts us all. <br />http://simonlev.blogspot.com/2010/05/letter-to-my-local-homophobe.html<br /><br />JaimeThe Fitch-Jenett Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01189562745394422476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3819444802156961103.post-45340463931101584712007-08-29T06:50:00.000+01:002007-08-29T06:50:00.000+01:00Well, i mean that Russian gays don't usually tell ...Well, i mean that Russian gays don't usually tell their parents (or siblings, often, i believe) because they feel that their family would disown them if they knew (certainly my friends felt that - i think the mother of one of them knew, but most didn't). <BR/>i know all about bullying because i suffered that at school too just because i was a bit different and i still have problems because of it. So i wish it was possible to make it so there was no more bullying of any kind...i guess there always will be some though. :(<BR/>anyway, interesting comment from you too...<BR/>Rhiannon.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3819444802156961103.post-26915837431705787122007-08-28T00:09:00.000+01:002007-08-28T00:09:00.000+01:00I would not worry much if there is no homophobic a...I would not worry much if there is no homophobic abuse and parents do not know that their child is gay. Fair enough, it's up to the person to tell his or her mother or father whenever s/he feels comfortable or not tell at all.<BR/><BR/>But we need to hear voices of parents when their children suffer emotionally or physically, being bullied at schools or elsewhere for being perceived gay (I am not even mentioning here about "for being gay" because being out in schools is non-existent in our society). Even if children do not tell parents about such abuses, which is normally would be the case for understandable reasons, parents should be able to notice that something is wrong with their child, and I am sure in many cases they would be able to find out the reasons. Not always an easy task, I know, but achievable nonetheless. These are the cases when we do not hear voices. <BR/><BR/> And I want to refer here not only to homophobic abuses per se, but for bullying in general, say for being ‘not manly enough’ (or ‘not feminine enough’ for girls), or simply different. Not only we do not here voices, but sometimes parents blame their children or themselves for ‘not manly/feminine enough’ offspring. Society values ‘manliness’, being macho is considered a norm for men, and feminine - for women. <BR/><BR/>These voices are essential to provoke social debates which may result in changes. Otherwise, everything is muted around... and many children continue living under enormous emotional stress, being bullied and abused... And not only children...<BR/><BR/>It’s a complex issue, and voices from parents may not be enough, there need to be complex approach to try to change gender perceptions or gay-related attitudes in traditional societies and it won’t be a quick process, but it needs to start - sooner, the better...<BR/><BR/>I realised that I wrote too much, there is definitely a material here for many posts to come. Thanks for re-posting, Rhiannon!artmikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11207317653711435445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3819444802156961103.post-19168184087336089652007-08-27T22:43:00.000+01:002007-08-27T22:43:00.000+01:00Well, from what i heard in Russia, (from my gay fr...Well, from what i heard in Russia, (from my gay friends), most gays there don't even tell their parents, so i guess the parents wouldn't be writing for that reason. :( thanks for posting that, i might put it on my blog too. :) <BR/>Rhiannon.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com